What is marriage?
Based on the definition from Dictionary.com -a relationship in which two people have pledged themselves to each other in the manner of a husband and wife, without legal sanction: trial marriage.
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the legal or religious ceremony that formalizes the decision of two people to live as a married couple, including the accompanying social festivities: to officiate at a marriage
To read between the lines of the definition, the main two characters are focusing on two people who make an official decision and have intention to announce to everyone they are married couple. Behind the scene, married couple is just a title. To hold the responsibility of marriage takes two to clap. It involves of commitment, communication, compassion, coordination, cooperation, concern and consideration.
Commitment – the married couple has to commit with one another for lifetime whether one fall sick, becomes poor, fat or thin, even gone insane. The couple has to stay with one another.
Communication – there are a lot of communication process going on as long you are handling with people. Whether the communication is broken, it has to restart and ensure that the message has pass to the end. Some people feel that communication is the toughest among the rest. As it need both to talk and listen at the same time. What more important is both have the same level of agreement that when one is talking, the other party is listening in affirmative and open minded. Allow one to finish the entire message before asking question. Stay calm and cool when it is touching personal topic. Moreover, communication is about learning about one another too. Always stay within the same topic before moving on to the next topic. This will help you stay focus and solve one issue after the other.
Compassion- have compassion with one another. When one is injure, hurt or sad, the other one show sympathy and sorrow for another accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering. And please never ask Why to a lady. As lady wants from the man is to give them a 100% listen hear when they are hurt or sad. Do acknowledge that you are listening too. Please don’t give advice too. All they want is listen to them. They want 100% attention.
Coordination and cooperation – When a couple live in one roof, one another has to compromise with one another daily habit. And so, there are a lot of coordination and cooperation involve. Help one another with the household chores. Reminding one another for some stuff. Draw up a schedule of who take care of what and how to get it done. The ideal way is to share the tips. If there is rotation of duty, share what is the best way to get such and such things done in the fast and excellence way.
Concern- this is a must element in the term marriage. Some say guys stop concerning their wife after pronounce husband and wife. In my eyes, guys are always behaving the same way as the beginning. When they fall in love, they remain the same. On the other hand, lady start to compare and set a higher expectation. And when the expectation does meet, lady will despair and say the guy is lousy. But what is lousy? No one is lousy. It is a matter to learn and practice. Stay showing your concern to one another. And lady , let your expectation be the same.
Consideration- be mindful and thoughtful to one another. Speak with a careful mind. Use the right word at the right time. There is no reason that you want to create unnecessary unhappiness to your happy space.
What more important about marriage is to love one another, care for one another and learn together as a couple. It is a long life time. Be happy and have lots of fun.